What I am about to write is greatly inspired by two things: (1) Kayla’s best score in her golf tournaments, so far and (2) this video I recently saw and shared in Facebook. Last weekend, Kayla joined The Junior Golfers League’s tournament at Southlinks Golf Club. Despite the brief moment of stress AND panic Kayla and I experienced when we got lost in finding our way to Southlinks (Actually, it was not brief. It was like an hour of being lost even if we were using Waze the entire time!) and finally getting to the place just 15 minutes before the tee-off time of 10:30 a.m., Kayla scored 88 last Saturday (her lowest so far!) and 89 yesterday. I saw how Kayla was slowly losing her motivation and was on the brink of giving up and not joining the tournament anymore. But as I was praying out loud to God behind the wheel and made it to the golf club by 10:15 a.m., I knew that I couldn’t and shouldn’t be a discouragement to Kayla. Before she got off the car, I made sure that I lifted up her spirits by telling her to forget the getting-lost-part that just happened, that there was a purpose why it happened and that I think God was teaching us both character that moment. I remember sitting in the car for a few minutes after Kayla went to register. This time I was getting teary-eyed with mixed emotions of relief and feeling the tiredness for driving for 4 hours, and again saying a prayer to God and lifting up Kayla for her tournament. It was clearly another moment of offering and surrendering to God.
I am really so thankful that Kayla found her passion before her Ate (older sister) Arielle leaves for Hong Kong for college this September. They are close to each other, more like best buddies. If she didn’t rediscover her passion in golf, I think there’s going to be a big hole of emptiness in her when her Ate leaves because of the close relationship they have. So I believe that golf will keep Kayla focused and will be a confidence and self-esteem booster for her. I can only thank the Lord for His perfect timing on what’s happening in the lives of our daughters!
So what really happens when kids find their passions? From my personal experience as a homeschool mom to Arielle and Kayla, this is what I think and have observed so far:
- They know who they are. They know what they can do and what they do best and is not struggling to fit in.
- They are driven to learn more about their passion and take initiatives to become better at it.
- They appreciate the people who teach, coach, and inspire them, which also teaches them about humility and gratitude. (And that includes appreciating the parents 🙂 )
- They have focus.
- They learn to be disciplined.
- They learn time management, making priorities, choices and decisions.
- They persevere.
- They become more patient.
- They accept failures and setbacks not as failures but as opportunities to do better.
- Their faith in God and in themselves become strengthened.
- They believe in themselves.
- They get tired and frustrated but they get back on their feet to train harder, learn more, be better.
- They become resilient, learn how to bounce back, and move on with life.
- They are encouraged to dream and dream big.
- They give their all in order to go for their dreams, but if their dreams don’t happen, they know that they’ve done their best and that is what matters.
My parting message to you parents is…explore and let your kids try different things so you and they themselves can see where they are most comfortable at, confident in, and wired to do. Once they have found “IT”, give them full support and doses and doses of encouragement. And that is important even if the passion they have found for themselves is different from yours or something you don’t know anything about (just like me, with golf! ).
Be by their side as they go through the discovery and exploratory process. Once they have found their passions, there’s no stopping them and you will soon see them fly with the wings you gave them. And what’s even better and gratifying is they will come back to you after a couple of months or years, seeing that you only not gave them wings to fly with but also roots to know where they should come back to.