Arielle will pursue her passion in Animation and Kayla is pursuing her passion in golf.

 

What I am about to write is greatly inspired by two things: (1) Kayla’s best score in her golf tournaments, so far and (2) this video I recently saw and shared in Facebook.  Last weekend, Kayla joined The Junior Golfers League’s tournament at Southlinks Golf Club.  Despite the brief moment of stress AND panic Kayla and I experienced when we got lost in finding our way to Southlinks (Actually, it was not brief.  It was like an hour of being lost even if we were using Waze the entire time!) and finally getting to the place just 15 minutes before the tee-off time of 10:30 a.m., Kayla scored 88 last Saturday (her lowest so far!) and 89 yesterday.  I saw how Kayla was slowly losing her motivation and was on the brink of giving up and not joining the tournament anymore.   But as I was praying out loud to God behind the wheel and made it to the golf club by 10:15 a.m., I knew that I couldn’t and shouldn’t be a discouragement to Kayla.  Before she got off the car, I made sure that I lifted up her spirits by telling her to forget the getting-lost-part that just happened, that there was a purpose why it happened and that I think God was teaching us both character that moment.  I remember sitting in the car for a few minutes after Kayla went to register.  This time I was getting teary-eyed with mixed emotions of relief and feeling the tiredness for driving for 4 hours, and again saying a prayer to God and lifting up Kayla for her tournament.  It was clearly another moment of offering and surrendering to God.

I am really so thankful that Kayla found her passion before her Ate (older sister) Arielle leaves for Hong Kong for college this September.  They are close to each other, more like best buddies.  If she didn’t rediscover her passion in golf, I think there’s going to be a big hole of emptiness in her when her Ate leaves because of the close relationship they have.  So I believe that golf will keep Kayla focused and will be a confidence and self-esteem booster for her.  I can only thank the Lord for His perfect timing on what’s happening in the lives of our daughters!

So what really happens when kids find their passions?  From my personal experience as a homeschool mom to Arielle and Kayla, this is what I think and have observed so far:

  1. They know who they are.  They know what they can do and what they do best and is not struggling to fit in.
  2. They are driven to learn more about their passion and take initiatives to become better at it.
  3. They appreciate the people who teach, coach, and inspire them, which also teaches them about humility and gratitude. (And that includes appreciating the parents 🙂 )
  4. They have focus.
  5. They learn to be disciplined.
  6. They learn time management, making priorities, choices and decisions.
  7. They persevere.
  8. They become more patient.
  9. They accept failures and setbacks not as failures but as opportunities to do better.
  10. Their faith in God and in themselves become strengthened.
  11. They believe in themselves.
  12. They get tired and frustrated but they get back on their feet to train harder, learn more, be better.
  13. They become resilient, learn how to bounce back, and move on with life.
  14. They are encouraged to dream and dream big.
  15. They give their all in order to go for their dreams, but if their dreams don’t happen, they know that they’ve done their best and that is what matters.

 

My parting message to you parents is…explore and let your kids try different things so you and they themselves can see where they are most comfortable at, confident in, and wired to do. Once they have found “IT”, give them full support and doses and doses of encouragement. And that is important even if the passion they have found for themselves is different from yours or something you don’t know anything about (just like me, with golf! ).  

Be by their side as they go through the discovery and exploratory process.  Once they have found their passions, there’s no stopping them and you will soon see them fly with the wings you gave them.  And what’s even better and gratifying is they will come back to you after a couple of months or years, seeing that you only not gave them wings to fly with but also roots to know where they should come back to.


6 Comments

  1. Wendi
    Posted April 12, 2016 at 2:41 AM | Permalink

    I admire you for the major sacrifice, time, patience and many more you give to both Arielle and Kayla…. I really mean that.
    You are such a hands-on and a devoted mom and praise you for everything that you’ve done and continue to do for them. For you to drop everything for them is an understatement, because I’ve already seen that you’ve done it numerous times.

    Love you.

    • racquel
      Posted April 12, 2016 at 9:17 AM | Permalink

      Ate Weng! Thank you! I’ve come to learn that this is a calling from God. This is what I’m meant to do.

  2. Posted April 12, 2016 at 9:08 AM | Permalink

    Beautiful sharing, Racquel! I can relate to your experience. There are times when my husband and I feel that our son does not have enough time to practice for the Masses where he will play the piano. Sometimes, we get the line-up of songs on the day of the practice only. That’s a day before the actual Sunday Mass where he will serve. But you know, God uses these events to strengthen not just our son’s faith in God but our (my husband and mine) faith as well. Because most of the time, our eldest son is able to play the songs really well, sometimes perfectly during the actual Mass. 🙂

    • racquel
      Posted April 12, 2016 at 9:19 AM | Permalink

      Hi, Teresa! Thank you! God really just works out everything for what’s best for us and for His glory. Amazing, noh? I pray that your family will grow together more, especially in faith. You are one great mom! 🙂

  3. Posted April 12, 2016 at 11:50 AM | Permalink

    Hi Racquel! Congratulations on having such passionate and talented kids! My husband and I don’t have children just yet but this has been a recurring topic of conversation. (Yup, we’re that OC, we’re already talking about child rearing this early). I have a question though, how do you find the balance between letting your kids explore but at the same time encouraging them to stick to the activities that they have previously committed to? We’re sort of afraid that our future children will inherit my fickle nature and they will just skip from one endeavor to the next when things get a little bit more challenging. Hahaha. We definitely want to help them foster their talents, but we also don’t want to push them to the point that they lose enthusiasm, if that makes sense.

    • racquel
      Posted April 12, 2016 at 8:44 PM | Permalink

      Hi, Pia! Looking back, I made sure that I sustained their interest on the activities that they really like doing by buying them books, materials, educational toys on those interests, for instance. Then if I personally want them to try a new activity, I ask them if it’s okay with them and let them try it. If it’s something that I or my husband and I really believe they should try doing (without them having an idea of what it is), we explain to them the benefits and what they will get out of it. We discuss afterwards how they feel about the activity, if they’d like to continue or not, and so on. Hope that makes sense, too 🙂

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